This is an excerpt from Dr. Paul Reisser.
"Wall-to-wall commitments, a frantic lifestyle, two or three jobs (or one job with the demands of two or three), constant noise, too much stuff, mounting debt, nonstop messages flooding your mental in-box, and a constant state of fatigue and anxiety- these are manifestations of living without a margin. Author Dr. Richard Swenson defines margin as "the space between our load and our limits", "the gap between rest and exhaustion", and "the space between breathing freely and suffocating". "
I thought this was interesting. Especially after working until 11:30 pm last night! I'm very guilty sometimes of going right from one thing to the next and not leaving myself any "margin". I schedule Dr. appts. almost to the minute of when I can get there after something else. The world tells us that we can "do it all" and "have it all", but at what price? that of our physical health or mental health?
I want less in my life. I want less stuff. That would make less to buy, less to store, less to clean, less to maintain or replace. I want less debt. That would mean less stress, more security, and more to help others who really need it. I want fewer messages of the world flooding my brain (you need to do this, you should do that) and more of God and his word and praise and worship.
I also want more in my life. I want more peace. I want more quiet times spent with God and in His Word. I want more unstructured/unscheduled days. I want to be open to the opportunities and people God places in my path.
In the past in has been hard for me to say "no" to good things. If someone asked me to do something that was worthwhile, I would say "yes". I went to a Bible study once where they encouraged us to tell the other person "I will pray about it and get back to you". (Of course, then you should pray about and do get back to them). It keeps you from later saying "why did I tell them I would help with that". It's OK to say "no" to good things. God may have better things for you.
I did something this week that I've never done before. I got invited to an educational toy party. I didn't want to go. It was from 7-9 at night. I have threatened to throw away every toy my kids own this week. I don't have the money (which is an excuse that has never stopped me from attending a party). When the lady called to see if I'd be coming, I told her "no, I will not be coming on Wednesday night, but thank you for thinking of me". No excuses. No feeling guilty. Nothing. And she said "OK, thanks". It's OK to say "no".
I probably have more thoughts floating through my head, but this will have to do for now as the boys are really wanting to get up! Have a great day and remember to leave yourselves some "margin".