These may not necessarily seem like ways to put him first. And maybe it's not about making him first, but making him a priority and not just giving him whatever is leftover of me at the end of the day. Because truthfully, it ain't much.
If I did all of these things I would have a better marriage. I've very good about reading a lot about marriage, but not putting into practice what I know is true/right. I am posting these
here as a reminder to me as well as ideas for you. I'm trying, Tim, I really am!
1. Know what his favorite meals are and cook them for him. If the kids don't like it, there are always hot dogs.
2. Do the little things he asks you to do. Tim asked me to fix his pants. I waited weeks before fixing them. I did everything else I wanted to do and didn't do it until he was really frustrated with me. Had I done it in a timely manner, it would have shown him he was a priority to me.
3. Make time for sex if you know that is something that is important to him. This was an area in the "For Women Only" book that I learned a lot from.
4. Know what makes your husband feel loved (maybe it is emptying the wastebasket when it's full or having the house picked up (not necessarily white glove clean) when he gets home from work.
5. Know what ticks your husband off and don't do it.
6. Say nice things about your husband in front of him and in front of your kids.
7. Say no to some extra curricular things so that you can say yes to your husband. A lot of things that we do are "good", but that doesn't always mean we should be doing all of them. Especially if we are making a sacrifice in another area. Only through close conversation with God can you discern which you should be doing. I like helping people and I like telling them yes. However, it often comes at the expense of my family.
8. Be the wife that your husband needs. You don't have to be the wife Bob, Joe, or Ralph needs (unless you are married to one of them). You have to be the complimenting partner for your husband.
I'm sure there are many more that I can't think of right now.
Also, while it is true that our children are only young once, none of us knows how long we have with our husbands either. Sometimes I think about how I treat Tim and if I would treat him the same way if I knew we only had days or months left together?-NEVER!